But don’t get suckered as many a man before you has – Japanese girls are skilled manipulators of men. Want super sexy, in heels, tight skirts and lots of skin? Some guys are turned off by their sexuality, or lack thereof, saying that they don’t have the porn star moves of western women.
Your Japanese girl will HAPPILY cook, clean, wash and fold your clothes, do your dishes, and give you a back rub all at the same time! Kidding aside, they really want to please their man, a drive that’s getting rather uncommon around the world these days. These “submissive” chicks will put you to sleep with their caring so there’s a real danger that you’ll wake up 5 years later married with kids, sexless, and living with her parents! Many a Western man has married a Japanese girl only to find that all that caring shifted 100% towards the children and he was left to fulfill his role as a walking wallet. But believe me when I tell you that they are willing to learn.
This obviously means that they really know how to unwind from the stresses of daily life. They love to dress well and look their best at all times. They love it, or pretend to love it until you work out what really pushes her buttons.
They also get into all sorts of niche hobbies and sub-cultures that keep them quirky and your interest sparked. I know of no other country where girls can look so cute and cuddly and so sexually alluring all at the same time. Japanese girls are up for it, so long as the guy they like likes them back.
On top of that they have a great media machine creating talent …and pushing it out to all corners of the globe over the past few years.
Those who have experience dating Korean girls lament the chasm between the images put out through k-pop and the reality of dating in Korea, though.
One of the reasons is the large amount of discretionary time that Japanese people(and Japanese girls in particular) have.
Before marriage a large percentage of Japanese girls are students, or hold part time jobs which leaves them with plenty of time to be out and about at cafes, malls, and restaurants in the daytime(interestingly, this pattern of behavior re-emerges after marriage once the kids are in school).
So, be aware that this is a possibility and keep a watch out. And like in all other areas of life, they are happy to “Ganbaru”, “try my best”, with all the enthusiasm of a little kid opening presents from Santa.
I always like to probe any Japanese girl I’m dating for what her parents relationship is like as a good indicator of whether I can expect her kind, giving behavior to continue. One thing that makes Japan a really great country is that there is a lot of variety in terms of how people live their lives.
This is one of the factors that makes it such a fascinating country to watch and to live in.