Many of the women who have written in have expressed feeling betrayed when they discover their men have looked at pornography.
None of this is mean to imply that the men who watch pornography have these problems.
It does imply that many men fear that these things could happen.
Some of these female writers report that they even view some internet porn along with their partner and feel especially angry that their partner will sneak away to view porn websites in isolation.
The comments express outrage, hurt, puzzlement, and confusion about what goes on with their men.
In addition to issues of performance for the male is the issue of genital size and appearance.
Beginning with adolescence it is common for boys to compare penis size with one another.
Some groups of boys even engage in ejaculation contests to test whose ejaculatory jet is the strongest and can reach the furthest.
Some even engage in urinary contests to see whose urinary stream can reach the furthest.
In addition to body image issues, women struggle with what is and is not acceptable about being sexual when you are female.
To this day there remains the double standard that for men it is permissible to be sexual but for women sexuality represents being immoral and sinful.
Why do men engage in viewing pornography both in secrete and in isolation? How can we help men and women understand one another so as to better avoid the bitterness and anger that easily comes between them on this issue? We have had several females state their intention to end their relationship with their male partner and at least one woman has asked if she should break her engagement and impending marriage over the pornography controversy.