In fact, if you tell a guy what he’s doing that you don’t like and how it makes you feel, that’s one of the best ways to help the guy get where you’re coming from.
In this scenario, I’m not pointing any fingers, I’m just saying it’s a smart thing to do because it will give you insight into how you are and clarity on the whole situation.
Generally speaking, I think it’s destructive in a relationship to think about things in terms of what someone is doing right or wrong (whether it’s you or the guy you’re with).
My boyfriend and I have been going out for about three months now.
We’ve already had sex and I think we took it way too fast.
At the same time, love does not mean that you should expect him to pick up the phone all the time or text you constantly.
Guys, lovable as we can be, usually like to use the phone to make a plan and that’s that.
And no, “clues” to a guy does not include a facial expression, voice tone or some kind of hint. Bottom line: If you show your boyfriend exactly how to make you happy, he will do his best to do it.
To a man, a woman who is thoroughly happy with him is a beautiful woman.
But just because somebody should do something doesn’t mean they will, for whatever reason. 😉 But be that as it may, it does bother you and my bet is that you are trying to figure out a way to address it without making him defensive or damaging the relationship.
My feeling is that you should take this as an opportunity to learn how to deal with this sort of thing… First and foremost, get a handle about how you feel about it.
In fact, I would even be so bold as to say that a man will almost inevitably leave a woman if he does not believe he can make her happy.