Be sure to explain your discomfort about it afterwards so there won’t be any confusion in the future.
“I've always been completely open about it with my partners,” says Emily*, a student at the Community College of Philadelphia.
“When I'm ready, I'll tell them that I'm okay with things going further.
Although this isn’t the sexiest conversation, it’s definitely an important one to have.
Ask your partner if he or she has gotten tested in the last six months and if he or she knows of any STD or STIs that they may have.
Make sure you and your partner know what exactly adding sex to the relationship will mean for you and what the expectations you have about it are.
Patrick Wanis, a human behavior and relationship expert, says that “it’s better to have this conversation before you have sex, or one of you may end up emotionally devastated if you thought it was something the other didn’t.” Don’t rush into anything you aren’t ready for, and know what you want to get out of it.“It’s always an awkward thing to ask, but I never have sex with someone unless I know they have been tested and are clean,” says Lucy*, a student at the University of North Georgia. They know I’m just looking out for my health and they’re usually glad I bring it up so they don’t have to.” It’s better to be safe than sorry, so don’t be afraid to bring testing up.However, be sure to remember that even if you do have the conversation, there’s always a chance your partner isn’t being truthful or has something without knowing it. Not all collegiettes are necessarily doing it, but for those who are, you have to be responsible for your own sexual health. Some conversations with a new partner can be awkward to bring up, but if you’re going to be intimate with someone, you need to be able to talk openly.Before jumping in the sack with your crush, you should discuss these important topics.“Both people have to be really honest and understand that sex will change the relationship,” Wanis says.