Principle #1 – You must think about things from her viewpoint – You probably don’t realize what the daily reality of an attractive girl is.She only has so much available attention, and everyone wants a piece of it. I means that she’s not going to respond to your texts just because you want her to.
If you send plain, boring texts like “Hey, how’s it going?
” all the time, she’s not going to get any emotional value from interacting with you over text.
I’ve seen lots of guys use text to try and tell stories, be funny or sarcastic, asking her deep questions, etc.
Before long, she loses interest, starts replying less and less, and then just stops replying altogether.
This will help remind you that you need to get her out on a date, not waste time becoming her texting buddy.
The High-Status Filter also helps when you’re feeling anxious and waiting for her to reply to your messages and she’s taking longer than you want. But would you waste gas, waste time, and put stress on the engine?
If you give her a spike of positive feelings with your texts and THEN ask her out…
that’s like heating up the metal and then bending it. When you ask her out while she’s feeling good about you, the chances of her saying yes are much higher.
but if you start making these mistakes and she loses interest (and stops replying), then it was all for nothing.
The first thing to learn here is how to take your foot “off the brakes” regarding texting. Mistake #1 – Trying to build attraction over text – One of the most important things to remember is that it’s better to build attraction in person when you’re face to face, not over text.
She wants a guy who is going to step up and ask her out. Mistake #3 – Not having a plan before you text her – Lots of guys will fire off a boring text without giving it much thought. ” What they don’t realize is that she gets texts like this all the time from other guys. She still has good feelings about meeting you, and she gave you her number so she could see you again. Now if you notice in the first text, I sent a combination of stage 3 and stage 2.