For the most part, this means less personal sharing and focusing on exchanging information and cooperation so you can make good decisions about your children.Let’s face it, communication with your ex is key to successful co-parenting.In order to answer that question, I will illustrate key aspects of each of these approaches to post- divorce parenting.
This may include special events, graduations – and perhaps even weddings.
It’s important to keep clear boundaries so that your children wouldn’t harbor fantasies that you will reconcile.
Over the years, I’ve interviewed many children of divorce who describe the pressure of loyalty conflicts.
Lauren, a lively 13-year-old speaks candidly about her struggle to cope with divided loyalties since age nine.
It’s a good idea to sit down with your ex and come up with a few strategies to encourage your children to cooperate with their “parenting time” schedule.
For instance, you may decide to make different arrangements for drop off and pick up.Most importantly, it’s crucial that your children see that you and your former spouse are working together for their well-being.Next, you may need to examine the “parenting time” schedule to make sure that it’s working for your children.He writes, “Some parents, however, in an effort to bolster their parental identity, create an expectation that children choose sides.In more extreme situations, they foster the child’s rejection of the other parent.In the most extreme cases, children are manipulated by one parent to hate the other, despite children’s innate desire to love and be loved by both parents.” According to author Virginia Gilbert, MFT, co-parenting is an option only when both ex-spouses support the other parent and respect their right to have a good relationship with the children.