Coz when you go all in for a romp with someone with whom you do not have a ‘clear’ equation with, you are accountable for your own actions.
Avoid being prey to the victim mentality and do what you think you’d not bemoan later. Behind the scenes action Sometimes, the skeletons in the closet may be a reason guys fear going all in.
One of the most used ones in the arsenal, this is like the machine gun of mixed signals.
Time is your best bet here, you can give it some reasonable amount of time and effort to see if he can slay his fears to pave the path to a consistent present and a stable future with you! The tip for ladies who know this is one of the reasons he doles out those mixed signals, to give him his space.
One of the worst responses to handle the situation is to be huffy.
I know, I know – stupid dating polemics – but well … They’d give you a clear thumbs up sign by having you meet his friends (and maybe, his folks too) but shall not ask you out. These guys are just trying to seek approbation from friends and family before asking you out or ensuring that you stay on the hook – hook, line, and sinker – and that is just mind-boggling, no?
Or they’d want to have a say in why contacting someone from your past is bad but shall have no qualms texting their ex about Kerry Wood’s 20-strikeout game! Whether you want to take someone who prefers to swim in murky waters or not is your call!
By switching of the game every now and then, you’d have him pinned to the same place you are in, and boy, would it get interesting!
After all, you’d find out if he will try or you can turn your attention toward another, worthy of it!
You do not yet know if this person is really into you, so keep those demands off the table and recognize the emotional tug-of-war that can happen if you burst out.
The more you push, the more he’d retract and pull away.
Don’t understand why that amazing evening ended with an out-of-the-blue remark that made you wonder where you stood with him? Unsure why he seems to act insanely jealous one moment and then, play it cool when you flirt it up with other guys just to make something of his confusing behavior? Afraid he’s keeping you ‘on the line’ as a time filler until the right tick of time brings him his Ms. Or terrified that takes it as a given that you’d invest in him whilst he can get away without much effort? Mixed signals from a guy are commonplace – an art at which guys are top dog! They are the undisputed kings of creating confusion and can’t seem to undo the blurred lines between flitty and flirty.