This kind of reductionist thinking is horribly unfair to both sexes and, IMHO, is one reason men and women don't trust each other.
Women are socialized to believe that men are jerks and men resent women scrutinizing them for covert jerkiness.
Man barely lasts two hours as a woman because the responses from his fellow men are so toxic.
“At first I thought it was fun, I thought it was weird but maybe I would mess with them or something and freak them out and tell them I was a guy or something, but as more and more messages came (either replies or new ones I had about 10 different guys message me within 2 hours) the nature of them continued to get more and more irritating.
I don't mean that you should post wet t-shirt photos and boast of your deep-throating skills.
And I certainly don't mean that you should play down your intelligence, since the kind of man you most likely want to attract will also be turned on by your mind.
but within a 2 hour span it got me really down and I was feeling really uncomfortable with everything.
I figured I would get some weird messages here and there, but what I got was an onslaught of people who were, within minutes of saying hello, saying things that made me as a dude who spends most of his time on 4chan uneasy.
I’m not trying to say what he experienced isn’t true, but bots and scammers are plentiful on dating sites, to the extent that any reasonably intelligent person can smell them as fakes.
So you're a single midlife woman and you care about sex? And no, I'm not just talking about women who are looking for casual fun, although that's a perfectly acceptable choice.
Guys were full-on spamming my inbox with multiple messages before I could reply to even one asking why I wasn’t responding and what was wrong.