I was recently blindsided by my husbands sex addiction, am about 3 weeks post confrontation……….
For background, I am a recovering alcoholic, have been sober almost 2 years.
And then he did two things that sent red flags up for me.
It took a couple days for him to realize I was very serious about my discoveries, and he has since been extremely remorseful, has gone to see a sex therapist and is going to his first 12 step meeting tomorrow night.
He is doing and saying all the right things with respect to his recovery, but I do not trust him.
We think it’s a great tool that can greatly benefit a parent’s relationship with their child when it comes to online safety.
Screen Retriever, is a monitoring program that allows parents to record and remotely view their children’s computer screen in real time.
As far as I can tell craigslist is not a chat site, it is for random and anonymous hook ups.
And I go from feeling sorry for him, and wanting to help, to not being able to stand being anywhere near him, angry and then to feeling completely numb.
In a time where safe anonymity makes more sense than ever, OKC insists on making people more findable. But this is only one dumb move after a string of crappy decisions, most of which ultimately boil down to squeezing as much money as possible out of members.
Furthermore they don’t consult with their members in any meaningful way.
Apparently this is common for those of us with daddy abandonment issues and a history of sexual abuse.
Because I needed to feel in control of the relationship to feel safe, it did not allow for my husband to grow and didn’t allow me to have respect for him.
no phone detail red flag raised, but moved on with my day 2.) he stopped the mail when we went on an annual beach vacation, pro-activity not his strong suit.