When couples are on the verge of a major life transition such as marriage, they begin to think about life, love, values…and the future. That’s the way some people discover their spiritual sides, but you don’t have to wait for a crisis.
To a great extent this is what spirituality is about – our human search for happiness and the meaning of life. It’s so much easier to let faith keep your relationship strong, rather than rescue you in an emergency. This time before marriage is an opportunity to take stock of your basic beliefs.
Research conducted by the Center for Marriage and Family at Creighton University (1999) showed a higher incidence of divorce among interchurch couples (20.3%) than among same-church couples (14.1%).
(Interchurch couples are Christians of different denominations, e.g., a Baptist and a Catholic or a Methodist and a Presbyterian).
One newly-married wife said that she had been raised in a very religious family, but when she met her fiancé she stopped practicing her faith.
He did not have a strong religious background and had no desire for a faith community, though he believed in God.
Since prayer at home is less formal, you can develop creative, inclusive times of prayer and faith devotions together.
Experiment with the rituals of each other’s faith and blend them to fit your family. If faith is important to you, discuss how each of you wants to share your faith with any children you may have before you are married.What’s important is whether couples engage in joint religious activities.For example, do they pray together or read the Bible together?Religion can bring spouses together or push them apart.Couples may be of different religions, but that in itself does not predict marital instability.They both realize it will be a challenge when they have children, although he has no objection to raising them in her religious tradition.