They’d pamper you, care for you and love you until you drop your guard down and welcome them into your life and give them your whole heart.
Selfish people are skilled manipulators by instinct.
If you’re being used by a selfish friend who sees you as an emotionally weak target, you may even find yourself confused and lost.
Selfish people aren’t selfish with everyone Selfish people subconsciously pick and choose the people they would want to use and trample on. But just like a wild animal’s inner instincts, if they come face to face with a caring and emotional person that they see as prey, they use them and abuse them until the relationship eventually falls apart or they find someone better to prey on.
If you come across as intimidating or emotionally closed off to a selfish person, they’d never ever dream of using you.
But when a selfish partner or friend starts to believe that they’re more important than the other partner in the relationship, they’d convince themselves that their partner needs them more than they need their partner.
It is very important that you understand this fundamental idea, because this is the foundation of all selfishness.
[Read: How self respect affects you and your relationship with others] Dealing with the hurt and the pain When you’re in a relationship with a selfish person, no matter what you do, they’d constantly make you feel like you aren’t giving enough back to them.
Even the love you have for this person would feel one sided and painful, because none of your feelings would be reciprocated.
You may wonder why you’re the only one feeling miserable around this selfish person while everyone else thinks so highly of them.
But that’s only because you lovingly handed over the strings to control you like a puppet to them.
But as the relationship starts to grow, you’d start to feel emotionally weak around this person.